Are you stressed out about the current state of political affairs? Concerned about divisiveness in this country? Worried about vulnerable populations and how they will be affected by the current administration? Many people are, and many of these people are parents. You may be wondering how to maintain a healthy and happy home for your children while living amidst the stress of endless news reports and social media posts.
As a child and parenting therapist, I have been hearing from many parents about how upset their children were after the election. Their children have asked how it was possible that the “mean guy” was elected. Now that President Trump has begun implementing his agenda, the reality of the new administration is causing anxiety and anger.
As a child and parenting therapist, I have been hearing from many parents about how upset their children were after the election. Their children have asked how it was possible that the “mean guy” was elected. Now that President Trump has begun implementing his agenda, the reality of the new administration is causing anxiety and anger.
Here is a list of things you can do to help you be a better parent, even when you are feeling stressed out.
Let your children ask questions
It is important to allow children to share their fears and concerns and ask any questions that they may have. Be honest in your answers, but also reassuring. Do not share your anxiety with your children. Also, make sure to give your child information that they can tolerate for their developmental stage. In other words, you may explain things differently to a four-year-old than you would to a twelve-year-old. To a four-year-old, you might say, “I know you are worried, but our country was designed to keep us safe.” While to a twelve-year old, you may go into a deeper discussion about checks and balances and how democracy works.
Remind your children of your family’s personal values
Your values of kindness, love, and acceptance have the greatest impact in your child’s day-today life. Reassure your child that your family will continue to live by those values. Encourage them to practice these values when at school and at home.
Reassure your children
Reiterate to your child that you will do everything you can keep to them safe, and that they will be okay. Do things that your children can help with, like writing letters to Congress members to express your point of view. Taking action relieves anxiety and increases self-esteem.
Children pick up on your emotional energy
Remember that children pick up on your emotional energy, even if you don’t talk about your fears and concerns. Do what you can to take care of yourself and to provide self-care so that you are able to regulate yourself when the children are around (i.e., take baths, exercise, and meditate). If you find that you are unable to contain your emotions, seek out professional help.
Turn off the news
The constant influx of information, especially when you find it disturbing, can lead to more anxiety. Take breaks from the news and social media.
Remember to have fun
Even if you are worried, you can still enjoy the present moment with your family. Go on hikes, play games, do art projects, and go on adventures. This is how memories are made and reminds us of the true meaning of life.
If you follow these suggestions, then you will help your home become a more peaceful place for your entire family. For more information about Carri Brown, LCSW, please see her website at www.carribrowntherapy.com.
Let your children ask questions
It is important to allow children to share their fears and concerns and ask any questions that they may have. Be honest in your answers, but also reassuring. Do not share your anxiety with your children. Also, make sure to give your child information that they can tolerate for their developmental stage. In other words, you may explain things differently to a four-year-old than you would to a twelve-year-old. To a four-year-old, you might say, “I know you are worried, but our country was designed to keep us safe.” While to a twelve-year old, you may go into a deeper discussion about checks and balances and how democracy works.
Remind your children of your family’s personal values
Your values of kindness, love, and acceptance have the greatest impact in your child’s day-today life. Reassure your child that your family will continue to live by those values. Encourage them to practice these values when at school and at home.
Reassure your children
Reiterate to your child that you will do everything you can keep to them safe, and that they will be okay. Do things that your children can help with, like writing letters to Congress members to express your point of view. Taking action relieves anxiety and increases self-esteem.
Children pick up on your emotional energy
Remember that children pick up on your emotional energy, even if you don’t talk about your fears and concerns. Do what you can to take care of yourself and to provide self-care so that you are able to regulate yourself when the children are around (i.e., take baths, exercise, and meditate). If you find that you are unable to contain your emotions, seek out professional help.
Turn off the news
The constant influx of information, especially when you find it disturbing, can lead to more anxiety. Take breaks from the news and social media.
Remember to have fun
Even if you are worried, you can still enjoy the present moment with your family. Go on hikes, play games, do art projects, and go on adventures. This is how memories are made and reminds us of the true meaning of life.
If you follow these suggestions, then you will help your home become a more peaceful place for your entire family. For more information about Carri Brown, LCSW, please see her website at www.carribrowntherapy.com.
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